I was a virgin on my wedding day and this is my story.
I was saved by grace at the tender age of seven. Growing up in the church surrounded me with lots of eligible Christian bachelors during my teen years but of course, sexual relationships were highly discouraged. I had maintained my sexual purity into my young adult years, but by my early twenties, it became very difficult. I had several "Christian" boyfriends that knew the rules of celibacy until marriage, but they served the Lord with their lips and their lips did not serve God with their heart. Honestly, neither did mine. Getting closer and closer to "the act", I knew that I needed a heart change. I knew the scripture that said that if a man is lustful in his mind, it had already been committed in the heart. Why did I think that this did not apply to women? It DOES! (Matthew 5:27-32). Choosing the spirit over the flesh, I repented of every lustful thought, stopped singing and listening to songs that glorified lust and recommitted my life and my HEART back to the Lord. What a difference that made! It was not mere willpower that kept me, but the power of the Holy Spirit producing the fruit of patience in my life. I have always known that I was a wife, but it was only to MY husband. I focused on what the Lord had actually called me to do at the time which was nursing. Just as I was finishing my degree and preparing to take my last tests, I met God's man for me - Maurice <3. We met over the internet by mistake (that's another story) and dating long distance which was very good for both of us....at first.
The enemy was waiting to bait me. About nine months into dating, we were getting very close to being engaged and temptation reared its ugly head again. However, God showed me that Maurice was the one when he took the spiritual lead in the relationship and we reaffirmed our commitment to each other and ourselves that we would wait until we were married to have sex. "It was hard" was a gross understatement of what we were experiencing at that time. So...it was time to get married. Yup, we met and married within one year!
It is only by God's grace and mercy that we remained faithful in the area of sexual purity up to our wedding night, and what a night it was! The Lord freed me to be all that He had created in the right time, with the right man with a clean heart. I was able to give my husband the most precious wedding gift a wife can give.
- Anita Mckaney
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Email - firstname.lastname@example.org (ministry and mentoring email)
Blog - www.hisarm.blogspot.com
Websites - Tru-Image (www.tru-image.org) AND Christian Wives Club (christianwivesclub.org)